My Boyfriend Doesn't Miss Me (Reasons & What to Do)

In this article, I will help you find the reasons why your boyfriend doesn’t miss you when you are apart. I will also walk you through a few possible solutions to your problem. Read on.

Reasons why your boyfriend doesn’t miss you

1. You guys have been in this relationship for too long: You guys are in a long-term relationship. You know each other too well and know about each other’s moves. Your boyfriend doesn’t miss you because he knows this relationship is strong.
   • Your boyfriend knows you like the palm of his hand. He does not seem to miss you because he knows you belong together.
   • Long-term relationships often turn monotonous but in a good way. A time times when the relationship looks and feels like a routine.
   • It is all about coming back to that one significant person in your life. A long-term relationship often starts to feel like home.
   • Missing someone comes from the absence of someone in your life. In relationships like this, the assurance of being together at the end of the day doesn’t leave much space for the idea of missing someone to creep in.
   • This is a good thing, and you should be able to enjoy the stage you guys are in relationship-wise. You guys have been in this relationship for too long now. Your boyfriend doesn’t miss you, but that doesn’t mean he is not in love with you.

2. He is not interested in you anymore: Your boyfriend doesn’t miss you because he is not interested in you anymore. This relationship has reached a dead end.
   • This happens in many relationships. Losing interest in the partner is common, and the commonest reason for that is boredom. The monotony of it makes one lose interest in the relationship.
   • This mostly happens when you guys have little or nothing in common. A time comes when you run out of topics to discuss. That’s when your partner starts to lose interest in this relationship.
   • The relationship turns into a place for boring conversations and repetition of ideas to discuss. The topics for conversation get reduced to an extent where you tell each other the same stories over and over again.
   • He doesn’t miss you because once he starts losing interest in you, there is not much to miss. People miss the ones they crave. They miss the aspects that make their partner adorable to them. When that ceases to happen, the relationship tends to lose its meaning. It becomes irrelevant and kind of like a burden.

3. That’s what you think: Well, it’s as clear as it gets. It is all in your head. You are so sure about the idea that your boyfriend doesn’t miss you because you firmly believe in that.
   • “He doesn’t miss me. Why doesn’t he miss me? ─ is what you think. That’s because you have fixated on a misconception that is only based on circumstances.
   • You believe your boyfriend doesn’t miss you because he never shows that in conventional ways. He misses you when you are not around but doesn’t welcome you in the socially accepted manner when you return.
   • You want him to show his emotions once in a while. That’s not a bad thing. However, you have to consider his take on this relationship as well. He doesn’t feel comfortable when it comes to emotions and their depiction through facial expressions and activities.
   • You guys are two different individuals. The relationship can only be a smooth one when you guys decide to respect each other’s choices and feelings.

4. He has found someone else: Your boyfriend doesn’t miss you because he has found someone else. He is having an affair behind your back and is too busy to even think about missing you.
   • Why would he miss you when he has someone else to spend the time you are not around? He has found someone else to fulfill his weird fantasies.
   • He is cheating on you. He is probably cheating on the other person too. But he won’t break up with either one of you because he wants to have the best of both worlds.
   • He has you around when the other person is not, and vice versa. The amount of effort that goes into hiding his affair leaves little space for him to emote.
   • He is too busy with his dual life to miss you. Missing someone only happens when you have feelings for someone. But in the case of your relationship, feelings are absent.

5. He is too busy to miss people: He is a workaholic, and that makes him too busy to miss people. Your boyfriend doesn’t miss you because he is always too engrossed in work.
   • He loves his job just as Emily Cooper loves her job in the well-loved Netflix series Emily in Paris. He has dedicated his life to his job and would move mountains to get things done efficiently.
   • That leaves little space for him to miss you. Most of his time is consumed by the job he does. He doesn’t miss anyone in his life.
   • That comes from job satisfaction. His workplace keeps him busy, but he is never upset about that. He enjoys the responsibilities. Work keeps him happy.
   • Have you ever seen him take a day off? If the answer is “no,” he is too attached to his work. The human connections in his life aren’t as strong as the connection he has with his job.
   • However, that’s not always a bad thing. He probably still loves you. His workaholic nature comes with him as a package deal.

6. He wants to end this relationship: Your boyfriend wants to end this relationship. He no longer has romantic feelings for you, and that’s why he doesn’t miss you anymore.
   • Your presence in his life doesn’t matter anymore. He is no longer in love with you. Your boyfriend doesn’t miss you because he is done with you.
   • He wants to get rid of you. He is tired of your company. He thinks this relationship has reached a dead end and is not worth a second chance.
   • His wish to end this relationship supports your hunch of him not missing you anymore. Your feelings don’t matter here. You might be in love with him, but the relationship is still going to end.
   • There is no good reason to stay in a relationship without love. You deserve love and might even come across a person who is more like you. It is okay to let go of this toxic relationship.

7. You guys meet each other frequently: Your boyfriend doesn’t miss you anymore because you guys get to meet each other frequently. Why would he miss you when he knows you stay close to his place?
   • The idea of missing someone comes from a loved one’s absence in your life. Your boyfriend would have missed you if you guys had to stay apart for a long time.
   • You guys get to meet each other frequently. That could happen when you stay near each other. This is a good thing, and it strengthens the bond between you two.
   • Not missing someone when you meet them regularly is practical. Try thinking about it. Is it wise to pine over someone you can meet anytime you want?
   • Your boyfriend is just a call away. He can come over anytime you want. Missing someone unnecessarily is a toxic trait that can be harmful to a thriving relationship.

8. He has other people to keep him company: He doesn’t meet you because your presence doesn’t matter much to him. He has other people to keep him company.
   • Your boyfriend has got a great group of friends. They have a strong bond and are always there for each other.
   • Your boyfriend doesn’t need you for emotional support. He has his friends for that. They have stood by his side during difficult times.
   • These friends have been in his life for a long time now. They were there even before you came into his life. They have a special place in his heart.
   • Your boyfriend doesn’t miss you because he is never alone. He doesn’t get the opportunity to think about you and your momentary absence in his life.
   • He probably gets a call from one of his friends the moment your date gets over. He always has someone to talk to and keep him occupied with conversation or activities.
   • However, that doesn’t mean he is not in love with you. He loves you, but he also holds his friends very close to his heart.

How to deal with the fact that your boyfriend doesn’t miss you?

1. Spend more time with him: Try to spend more time with him. The more time you spend, the more attached he will grow to you.
   • Attachment to someone makes you miss them when they are not around. But that is clearly not the case with you and your boyfriend.
   • Spend more time with him to increase his emotional attachment. Make memories with him. Create days that he will never forget.
   • An unforgettable day together will make him want more out of this relationship, and that’s when he will start missing you.
   • Make your absence matter by being present. Try to be an undeniable part of his life. You can try cooking together or visit the nearest beach on weekends
   • Create special places that are special to this relationship. For example, choose a restaurant to have dinner in every month after you get the paycheck. That way, he would probably miss you every time he passes by that place (even if you guys break up).

2. Check if he is cheating on you: Try to check if he is cheating on you. If he is into some other person, he will never miss you. Let’s see what you can do.
   • You can follow him around but stay within your limits while you do that. Stalking is creepy, and you will have to do it to get to the truth. However, you can dial down the creepy part a little by setting boundaries.
   • You can talk to his friends. Contact the ones that are friends with you too. If they are your well-wishers, they might be able to shed some light on the matter.
   • You can check his clothes for clues. He might have something in his pockets that belong to the other person he is dating. It can be a questionable movie ticket or a dinner receipt.
   • However, you need to remember one thing. All this search for infidelity comes from suspicion. You may or may not be right about your hunch. So be ready to feel guilty about not trusting your partner.

3. Stop overthinking: Overthinking is your biggest enemy. It is the root of all your problems. You need to stop overthinking.
   • You tend to overthink everything. You think your boyfriend doesn’t miss you when you are apart. Try to put logic into your thoughts. Why would he miss you without reason?
   • The act of missing someone depends on how far apart they are from the loved one. If you guys stay far away from each other, the idea of missing is valid.
   • You need to stop overthinking about trivial issues like your boyfriend missing you from the apartment across the street. Instead, address the real problems in your relationship.

4. Accept that you guys are in a long-term relationship: Acceptance is the key here. Try to accept that you guys are in a long-term relationship. Admit that you guys are like an old couple with more familiarity in your life than excitement.
   • Long-term relationships often feel like home. The excitement reduces with time, and it leaves you with companionship and warmth.
   • There is no place to miss someone who is so close to you. You guys literally see each other every day. All you need to do is accept your position as a couple who have been together for a long time.
   • Once you accept the nature of your relationship, you will start enjoying the little things instead of pining over superficial thoughts about him not missing you enough.

5. Talk to him about how you feel: Conversation can attempt to solve your problems. Talk to him about how you feel. Tell him what you want.
   • Try to sit down in a calm place and talk to him about what you feel about the relationship. Encourage him to talk about how he feels.
   • Tell him that you don’t think he misses you. However, be ready for the answer he might come up with. Chances are there that he will use logic to fight emotion.
   • You can tell him what you want from the relationship. Along with that, try to figure out what he wants. This should be a two-way conversation. Make sure both of you get an equal opportunity to talk.
   • Conversation can help you solve your problem. You think your boyfriend doesn’t miss you. That is probably because he is not that good at showing his emotions. But he has feelings for you. A mature conversation will clear these things for you and maybe even for him.

6. Ask relevant questions: Ask relevant questions. Incoherent questions can make the conversation take a detour into territories you don’t want to visit. Your questions should be a little logical. Here is what you can ask:
   • “Do you still have feelings for me?”
   • “Hey. We don’t talk much these days. What do you think is wrong?”
   • “Do you miss me when we are apart?”
   • “How do you feel when I am not around?”
   • “Where do you think this relationship is going?”
   • “Do you think we have an emotional bond?”

7. Tell him you miss him: Tell him that you miss him. You are worried that your boyfriend doesn’t miss you. That’s probably because you guys don’t talk about your feelings enough.
   • Tell him how you feel about this relationship and encourage him to talk to you about the same. Conversation is necessary for relationships.
   • The situation you are in has probably been caused by a lack of proper conversation. You guys don’t talk about each other or the relationship, causing misunderstandings like this.
   • A lack of conversation can also make you overthink. A few days of detachment can make you think that your boyfriend doesn’t miss you anymore. It may even make you think that he no longer has feelings for you.
   • You need to tell him that you miss him when you are apart. That might help you melt the ice. Your emotions can make him speak about his feelings when you are apart.
   • Try to be polite throughout the course of this conversation. Don’t yell at him unnecessarily. Try to be patient and listen to him. Spurring fights can be bad for the relationship.

8. Ask him if he misses you: Directly ask him if he misses you. Don’t beat around the bush and waste your time. Get to the point quickly.
   • You are here because you think your boyfriend doesn’t miss you. You can try to figure out the problem yourself. However, if this seems like a difficult task, you can always approach him with a direct question.
   • Ask him, “Do you miss me when we are apart?” His answer to this question could be vague or satisfactory, depending on his current state of mind.
   • If he comes up with a vague answer, it will leave some space for you to ask more questions. You can go on to ask questions starting with “why” or “how” in this scenario.
   • Even a satisfactory answer can have two types. He can come up with a positive answer that mostly says that he misses you when you guys are part. Such an answer will depict his feelings. It will show that he is mostly driven by emotions.
   • A negative answer to your question is logical, especially when you stay close to each other or get to talk to each other every day. A negative answer from him will show that he is mostly driven by logic.
   • Whatever happens, his answers to your question say nothing about his love for you. Don’t judge his feelings for you based on how much this person can miss you when you guys are apart.

Tips

Here are a few things to remember:

• Don’t start a fight when you are supposed to have a mature conversation like adults.
• Missing someone, when you are apart, depends on the social situation you are in. If you are surrounded by people all the time, you will not be able to miss someone as they show in the movies.
• Get rid of the misconceptions you have about relationships and try to think logically.
• Ask questions and clearly tell him what you want from the relationship.
• You can check if he is cheating on you but be careful when you do that. Try to stay within your limits and always remember that you are doing this based on a hunch.
• Not missing you doesn’t necessarily mean he is not in love with you.