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He Stopped Watching My Stories (9 Possible Reasons)

Feature Image of He Stopped Watching My StoriesHe stopped watching your stories because he has lost interest in you. This loss of interest can have many reasons. He could be doing this because he found someone else, or when he is trying to avoid you. He could be upset over something you have said or have done.

A guy you are interested in stopped watching your stories. We will help you understand why he did it. Through this article, we will also help you find ways to deal with this situation. Scroll down to read.

Reasons why he stopped watching your stories

  1. He simply lost interest in you: He stopped watching your stories because he does not find them interesting anymore. He does not find you interesting. He has lost all interest in you and is probably looking for someone new.
    • Social media is a vast space. It is brutal too when it comes to attention. You only check things out that you get attracted to. You only watch the reels that intrigue you. Similarly, you only check out the stories that you find interesting. People no longer spend time on things that fail to hold their attention. They tend to move on to the next best thing quicker than you blink.
    • He stopped checking out your stories because he no longer found them interesting. There was a time when your stories were capable of holding his attention. They were able to make him think. That time has come and gone and he has probably moved on to better things now.
    • This lack of interest in your stories stems from his lack of interest in you. He stopped watching your stories because he no longer found you intriguing. You were an enigma in the beginning. The more he knew about you, the more detached he got from the idea of being with you. He stopped watching your stories when the shroud of mystery around you was gone. He knows everything about you now.
    • He wants nothing more out of this relationship. He has received what he wanted and now he thinks it is his time to move on to new and better things. He wants new experiences and new mysteries to untangle. He does not feel attached to you anymore.
    • He is no longer interested in you and stopped checking out your stories on social media because, on pondering, he came to the conclusion that you guys are not compatible with each other. He liked you but he can do nothing about this situation. He thinks he deserves to be with the perfect partner and you are definitely not the one for him.
    • He is one of those guys who cannot stay with one person for long. He was never in love with you. He never even liked you romantically. He was just interested in you and when he unraveled the mystery around you, he found it fit to move out of your life.
    • Guys like him do not fall in love easily. They move from one casual relationship to another and like having one-night stands. There is nothing wrong with this lifestyle choice until it hurts someone’s feelings. The fact that you are here looking for reasons behind his disappearance from your life proves that you are worried about his absence (and a bit hurt that he left you like this). This does not portray him in a good way.
  1. You rejected him: He stopped watching your stories because of the negative reaction he received from you. You rejected him and that made him step out of your life politely. This is not an act of passive aggression. He just wants to live in peace and with dignity.
    • Rejection can make people do regrettable things. Some toxic people often come back to exact revenge after they get rejected. However, the guy we are discussing is a mature person, with a sound mind. He is polite and composed. He stopped watching your stories just to stay out of your way.
    • The bigger question here is focused on you. Why are you so worried about the fact that a guy you rejected has stopped watching your stories? Are you still interested in him? If yes, then why did you reject him in the first place? You have a lot to think about here.
    • The best thing about this guy is that he handles rejection better than most guys out there. He won’t call you out or stalk you around the departmental store. He will not bug you with texts and phone calls. He will only stop being in your life.
    • Watching someone’s stories is the quietest possible way of letting someone know that you are interested in them or that you are in their life. When you stop doing that, it kind of stamps a seal on the fact that you are no longer interested. That is what happened in your case. He took a sharp exit from your life.
    • He made this decision to protect himself from the disappointment and humiliation that came with the rejection. He does not want to be associated with you anymore in any way. He is very protective of his self-respect and would not think twice before he stops being present in your life. He might even block you if you try to bug him with texts. He the stark opposite of Leonard Hofstadter from The Big Bang Theory.
  1. He is too busy to check people’s social media activity: He is a busy person who has very little time for recreational activities. In today’s world, watching social media stories and doom-scrolling through reels can easily be termed as recreation.
    • He used to check out your stories when he was not busy. He fails to do that now because his busy schedule does not permit him to do so. He has little time to spare for himself.
    • Not watching your stories can mean many things. He is busy, but that does not necessarily mean he is not interested in you. Someone interested in you should not have to prove their feelings only by watching your stories on social media.
    • However, you also cannot rule out the chances of him being no longer interested in you. It is true that he is busy, but if he really likes you, he will be able to make time for you. The fact that he has stopped watching your stories could mean he has no interest in you whatsoever. He is not even thinking about you.
    • He can stop watching your stories even when you are in a relationship with him. That could happen if he gets too busy with work to spare time for social media shenanigans. His busy schedule probably does not allow him the opportunity to doom-scroll through his newsfeed or watch your stories over and over again. He is in a relationship with you, and that means he knows you better than what your social media profile says about you. There is nothing to worry about in this case.
  1. He found something offensive in your stories: He stopped watching your stories because he found one or a few of them offensive. He has lost the romantic interest he used to have in you because of the stories you have put up.
    • There is a thin line between having a difference of opinion and being offensive. You crossed that line in your social media stories and that made you unattractive in his eyes. Having a mental connection is important for him, and your recent stories prove that he can never expect to have that with you.
    • Not all men are into looks and outward appearance. They are not after the perfect beach body or an Instagrammable face. They seek a connection that goes beyond physicality. They want someone who thinks alike. They feel the need to be with someone who has a similar political inclination or someone who likes the same kind of books and movies. They simply need something in common.
    • They take a step back when they see how different you are from them in your stories. For example, if he finds out that you support a political party that he always votes against, he will not think twice to ignore you the next time. If he is a DC fan and finds you bashing his fandom in your story as you highlight Marvel, he will get offended and might even cut you out permanently from his life.
    • When you put up a story that allegedly offends him, he can either confront you about that, or he can choose to take an exit from your life, silently. In either case, he is disappointed that things did not work between you two.
    • He can get offended if your story says something that goes against his beliefs. In that case, you should know that you have the right to voice your opinion. You should not stop putting up stories just because a guy did not agree with you and got offended. He should be responsible for his ideals. He cannot expect the world to run by his rules.
    • However, if your story says something that is harmful and offensive to most people around the world, his disappointment and subsequent disinterest in you is legit. Racist, sexist, and other problematic opinions often trigger people (rightfully). The fact that he stopped watching your stories prove that you were wrong. Your problematic thought process needs to change if you want to be a part of the society.
    • He can also get offended by your social media post if he is a textbook snowflake. A snowflake is a person who gets offended and hurt by almost every little inconvenience. Here are a few ways to identify a perfect snowflake.
  1. He found someone else: Now, this is quite a simple explanation. He stopped watching your stories because he found someone else. He does not have any interest in you anymore. He has moved on.
    • He used to watch your stories because he was interested in them and by extension, in you. He stopped clearly because he found someone who is more interesting. He is probably seeing someone else.
    • Social media is a tricky place. You can have someone interested in you one day only to find him moving on to another fun person the next day. Nothing seems permanent in the digital world.
    • This lack of permanence and commitment often turns into a source of agony for emotionally vulnerable people. You are probably someone who has not yet learned the art of staying breezy. You tend to get emotionally attached to any person who talks to you nicely. That is why his lack of interest in you makes you sad and worried. The idea of him being with someone else bugs you to the extent that you are here looking for answers.
    • He has the right to get interested in another person. He also has the right to lose interest in you. I know that makes you sad, but unfortunately, this is how things work. You can’t hold on to someone who is no longer interested in you.
    • Watching someone’s social media story takes a few seconds. The fact that he is not willing to spare two seconds for you from his life proves that he does not want to be with you anymore. He has moved on to someone who he thinks is better than you.
    • He might leave that person for someone else, but that should not be your concern. The bottom line is that he is a fickle-minded person who loves changing his romantic preferences frequently.
  1. He is going through a digital detox: It is not about you. He has stopped watching everyone’s stories. He is trying to spend some time away from the internet and his smartphone by going through a digital detox.
    • You have got to admit that the internet is a toxic place. The guy we are discussing wanted some time away from it. This is not about you. He is taking a break from the Internet to reorganize his thoughts.
    • He is not watching anyone’s stories. He has probably logged out of all his social media accounts for now. This decision has nothing to do with you. He did it because he was overwhelmed with his digital presence.
    • Social media and by extension, the internet can baffle people easily. It can mess with the head leading one toward a myriad of negative thoughts. He pulled his breaks at the right time and got out of the madness.
    • Social media is a toxic place because it shows that everyone is happy with their lives. It can make one feel like the unhappiest person on the planet. It causes depression and anxiety, and ultimately it starts messing with your mental health. A digital detox is the perfect way to recover from the damage this virtual world can cause.
    • You may not see him on social media for a while now. He will return only when he wants to. He is going through a process of recovery. His mind needs his attention.
  1. He is trying to make you feel miserable: He is doing it intentionally. He knows you like him and is trying to make you feel miserable by ignoring you. He probably has a twisted sense of humor which makes him obtain pleasure from people’s suffering.
    • He stopped watching your social media stories to torment you. He wants to make you feel miserable and anxious. He wants to keep you on your toes. The fact that he behaves like this, without any apparent spur, proves that he is a toxic person.
    • Toxic people can make you feel horrible in many ways. You got interested in this guy probably because he showed interest in you in the beginning. The moment you thought that you guys are hitting it off, he started ignoring you. This is a textbook example of toxic behavior.
    • He wants you to pine for him. He thinks highly of himself (that is a problem). He also probably thinks that you need to earn the opportunity to date him. Not watching your stories is his way of showing that he does not care about your affection. With this move, he wants you to know that he has a queue of other potential partners waiting for him.
    • He is basically a sadist who seeks pleasure in people’s suffering. He loves watching you write in mental agony over the fact that he has stopped watching your stories. He plans his moves carefully with the sole intention to torment you.
    • He has a sick sense of humor that makes him behave this way. He does what he does intentionally and probably has behaved in the same way with other people in the past. He is self-absorbed and selfish. He only knows how to make people miserable. He is not worthy of your affection.
  1. You broke up with him: He has every right to stop watching your stories if you were the one to break up with him. It may not always be about petty revenge. He just wants to move on peacefully. He wants to calm down.
    • He stopped watching your stories to save himself from heartache. He was heartbroken after you broke up with him and has been trying to deal with the aftermath ever since. Avoiding your existence seems like a great way to him.
    • Breakups can be hard for people. While some move on easily, most people take a lot of time to get over their lost love. If you were in a romantic relationship, with a person who has stopped watching your stories, this behavior on their part is pretty normal.
    • If you were the one to initiate the breakup, he has even more reasons to stop watching your stories. It is normal for him to hold a grudge against you. However, civilized people deal with anger and grudge in ways that do not harm other people. That is precisely what he is doing. He is trying to deal with his anger over the fact that you broke up with him by avoiding your social media activities.
    • This can also be about petty revenge. He is simply trying to make you feel bad for breaking up with him. He liked you genuinely and letting you go was difficult for him. He wants to get back at you for breaking his heart. The time he was with you had taught him that you value your social media presence. Therefore, he cleverly chose to stop watching your stories to annoy you.
    • However, this may not always be about petty revenge. He is probably just trying to take his mind off of you. He wants to forget you and watching your stories on social media is not helping him in that. He has probably snoozed you or sent you on mute for a while until he recovers from the breakup.
  1. He blocked you: He stopped watching your stories because he blocked you. Look for him in your friend list or list of followers. You might not find him there. He must have a reason for his actions.
    • He may block you for a myriad of reasons. The most common one has been discussed in detail in the preceding point. A breakup can trigger him to block you and that by extension, makes him stop watching your stories.
    • Blocking someone is the best way to forget about their existence. He wanted to restore his mental health and no solution other than blocking you seemed good enough to him. Your insane amount of stories used to float around his social media all the time. Moving on can be difficult when this happens.
    • However, he can also block you if you have been bugging him with too much unwanted romantic attention. What do you do when a guy sneaks into your inbox with incessant romantic or sexual advances? Most people block such a person immediately. He probably did the same in this case. Your words made in uncomfortable.
    • You will have to understand one thing. He is entitled to make his own decisions when it comes to dating. You can’t dictate his love life. He understands his rights well. That is probably why he never thought twice before sending you off to the blocked list. He is not one of those guys who will do anything to get laid. He needs to bond with his partner emotionally and he clearly does not feel that connection with you.

What to do when he stops watching your stories?

  1. DM to check if he is okay: You can text him directly to check if he is okay. That way, you will be able to determine whether he is still interested in you or not.
    • He has stopped watching your stories probably because he is not in the right condition to do so. You can check on him with a text. Slide into his DMs to ask if he is okay.
    • Keep your tone casual when you do that. Do not show your concern in a way that might scare him off. He might not be into you and in that case, this kind of concern can freak him out. He might find it creepy.
    • The way he replies to your text will tell you if he is still interested in you or not. When someone stops watching your stories chances are there that the person has lost interest in you.  His replies will, therefore, reflect the way he feels. No reply from him will also do the same showing that he is not at all interested in you.
    • You will also have to be a bit alert in this case. It is your job to analyze his replies to your texts. You will have to read between the lines to understand his intentions. Be careful when you do that as reading them wrong might leave you embarrassed.
  1. Like his posts and stories: He might have stopped watching your stories because you do not pay much attention to his social media presence. Start liking his posts and stories and see what happens.
    • You expect him to value your social media presence by watching your stories when you fail to do the same. Social media is a two-way street. Unless and until you are a Kardashian or any other celebrity, people will expect likes and views from you in return.
    • The fact that you care about his name on the list of people who have watched your stories prove that you are just a common social media enthusiast. You do not have enough followers to lose track of who is watching your stories.
    • If you want him to watch your stories and like your posts, you will have to do the same for him too. He probably stopped because you never reciprocated. He might like you but he also has self-respect. He is not going to compromise that by treating you like the Petrarchan goddess you are not.
    • Like his posts and watch his stories to let him know that you are still interested in him. However, do not act like a creep by liking all the posts in one go. He has a thing in his phone called the “notification bar” that shows what you are doing.
    • Think of how you reacted when a random guy liked all your posts in one go. You probably called that guy a creep and laughed about the incident with your friends. Liking all the posts at a time is a textbook stalker move and you will have to avoid that if you want this guy in your life. Show that you are interested. Do not make him think that he is dealing with a crazy stalker.
  1. Let him move on: He does not want to be with you. He is no longer interested in you. It would be best if you let him move on. Nagging and pining for him won’t keep him in your life.
    • It is best not to bug the person who is no longer interested in you. Pining for a lost cause like this only brings embarrassment. He stopped watching your stories because he lost interest in you. He probably has found someone whom he thinks is better than you.
    • Save yourself from embarrassment and leave this guy alone. Why would you pine for someone who is not interested in you? He does not even recognize your presence. You cannot affect your mental health by thinking about him all the time and daydreaming about what could have been if he was with you.
    • Snap out of your imagination and do something worthwhile. You should move from this weird thing that you had with the guy. Let him move on too. He gets irritated when you bug him for attention. He will not be able to concentrate on you forcefully because you are clearly not the kind of partner he wants.
    • There is someone out there for you who values you and likes you for who you are. The best way to deal with your loneliness is to move on from the present guy. Look for the person who is perfect for you instead of fixating on one guy who does not care about your feelings.
    • You should let him be happy with his life. Accept the fact that you will never have him as your partner. The faster you accept this the better. You cannot make someone fall in love with you at will. Things like this take time and consent to happen. He must feel things for you on his own. You cannot manipulate him.
  1. Do not let him make you feel miserable: If you think he is doing this intentionally to make you feel bad, do not let him do so. No one can make your life miserable.
    • I know you like him. The fact that he is not watching your stories anymore is bugging you because you care about his reactions. You value his opinion. However, the guy we are discussing probably does not deserve your affectionate feelings. He is doing this on purpose to make you feel bad.
    • He is a sadist who seeks pleasure in tormenting others. You are the new victim of his twisted sense of humor. He made you feel important by showing interest in you only to take all of that back one fine morning.
    • You should not let him make you feel this way. Do not react in the way he wants. He wants you to feel anxious. You should stay cool about it and ignore him instead. How to ignore someone who is already ignoring you? Well, in this case, not texting or bugging him to know if he is still interested in you, is the trick.
    • He wants you to pine for him. Switch places and make him pine for you instead by ignoring him completely. Do not contact him at any cost (even if you want). Try to stop yourself (consciously) from thinking about him. He does not deserve your attention.
    • This is not the right guy for you. Being in a relationship with him will only give you a hefty bill at the therapist’s office. He is the textbook example of a toxic guy. He will keep making you miserable over little things. Guys like these are prone to make fun of you in public. He will never respect you for the person you are.
  1. Do not bug him if he is going through a digital detox: He is trying to refocus his mind by going through a digital detox. That is probably why he stopped watching your stories. Do not disturb him in the process. He is trying to bring constructive change in his life.
    • Social media and by extension, the internet can be overwhelming. It can mess with a person’s mind and bring irreversible damage to one’s mental health. Something like that must have happened to the guy you are interested in. He stopped watching your stories because he is trying to take a break from social media.
    • This is a time when we can’t function without the internet. It is required to accomplish every little task. It is associated with all aspects of our life. However, we can function well without social media. Think about the time you waste doom-scrolling through Instagram reels and Tiktok videos. You could have accomplished so much in that kind of time. Therefore, taking a break from social media is a great decision.
    • Not watching your stories does not necessarily mean he is not interested in you. He is not watching anyone’s stories during this digital detox. Check if he has deactivated his social media accounts. He is trying to reorganize his thoughts.
    • People on social media often present themselves as their happiest versions. Everyone has a perfect life. Everyone is vacationing and having fun at are parties. Things like this can make people loathe themselves. The guy we are discussing is trying to escape this trap of self-loathing through a digital detox.
    • You should never disturb him during this process. Disruption in refocusing might cause damage to his mental health. You do not want to do that. Have patience if you like this guy. He is going through a difficult time and he needs the people around him to be supportive. Here is what a person does when they are on a digital detox.
    • If he likes you, he will come back to you once he is done with this digital detox thing. He values his mental health and is aware of the problems that can affect it in adverse ways. This is a good sign because he will value your mental health too, if you guys ever come together in a romantic relationship.
  1. Try to forget him and move on: He is clearly not interested in you. In a situation like this, it is always better to forget him and move on. He will not be a part of your life no matter how much you want him to be.
    • He stopped watching your stories because he is not interested in you. He might have been interested in you earlier but now he is not. You will have to accept the truth to move on. There is no other way. You can’t make someone fall in love with you.
    • I know you like him. You want him to be a part of your life. But that is not what he wants. He has made it clear with his lack of interest in your social media presence. He probably thinks you are not the right person for him. Thoughts like this mean that you will never be a part of his life.
    • In terms of mental health, it is better to leave one-sided relationships. Everybody deserves love and a perfect partner to come home to. Relationships like this only inflict pain and suffering until you accept the harsh truth. He will keep rejecting you until you break apart. He will never be able to value you as you are not the one for him. It is often too late by the time you realize that.
    • Ask yourself a few questions: Why should I let this happen to me? Do I really deserve this? Why am I running behind something I will never accomplish? Isn’t it better to focus on positive things instead?
    • You should try to forget him and move on. Accept the fact that he will never be yours. Look for other people to date. Go on dating apps and meet new people. You will probably find the perfect guy for you this way. Being in a perfect relationship is like a dream, but that dream only comes true when you learn to let go of your past.
  1. Do not talk to him again if he says he is not interested: When he says he is not interested in you, (clearly, in a conversation) do not talk to him again. Have some self-respect and protect yourself from more humiliation.
    • You can ask him if he is interested in you or not. There is nothing wrong with it. Conversations are necessary to solve complicated problems. You can ask him why he has stopped watching your stories. Ask him if you have offended him in any way. It is great if you get a positive answer to your questions. However, if he replies in a negative way, take it as a cue to step out and never talk to him again.
    • He is clearly not interested in you. Do not bother talking to him when you know how the conversation is going to end. However, do not turn him into a villain just because he rejected you. He has every right to do that. He may not be interested in you just like you are not interested in every other person in the world.
    • Everyone has a type, and you are clearly not his type. You need to understand that as fast as possible. Talking to him over and over is a futile attempt at love. Stop being in such a sorry state and step up to face the truth.
    • Save yourself from humiliation by establishing no contact with him. Forget that he exists. There is always someone better for you waiting around the corner. You will just have to make the right move. Have some self-respect and never talk to him again. Check out a similar article for more insights.


A few things to remember:

  • Try to control your feelings and accept that he will never be yours. He is just not interested in you romantically. If he actually was interested in you, you would have known that effortlessly.
  • You can’t expect him to stay interested in you after you have rejected him. It is a two-way street where you get what you give. You were the one to reject him. He has every right to look the other way and forget that you exist. He has no obligation to pine for you endlessly. He is not Astrophil and you are definitely not his Stella.
  • Why would you want him to watch your stories when you were the one to break up with him? There was a reason behind the breakup. He is just trying to move on by ignoring you on social media. Being upset over that means you still have feelings for him. Sort that out as a priority.
  • If he wants to make you feel miserable do not let him do that. Confront him or cease contact with him immediately. You do not deserve to be with a toxic person who derives fun out of your misery.

About the Author

Nirajana Mukherjee

Nirajana Mukherjee has been helping people find out their relationship queries since 2019. At Relationshippp she loved to talk about topics related to Dating, Affairs, Attraction, and Breakups. Her work can be seen in RelationshipExplained - A Renowned Relationship Blog. Nirajana has a Masters in English literature from St. Xavier's University.
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