A Married Man Flirts Then Ignores Me (Here's Why & What to Do)

In this article, we will talk about a situation that could be tormenting your mind. A certain married man flirts with you and then ignores you. Let’s find out why he does what he does and what you can do in a situation like this. Read on.

Possible reasons why the married man flirts with you and then ignores you

1. He is no longer interested in you: He is not interested in you anymore. He used to flirt with you when he found you interesting. Now that he has found other areas of interest, he ignores you.
   • His behavior seems so erratic because his interests are constantly changing. He used to flirt with you because he found you intriguing, but that changed when he found an even more interesting person.
   • He ignores you because you are no longer in his mind. He has stopped thinking about you and is consumed by the thoughts of another person whom he will forget about after a few days.
   • His twisted mind thinks he is too good for everyone else. He is disappointed with his marital life, and therefore, he tries to find sparks outside.
   • He is probably not ignoring you on purpose. He is so self-absorbed that he has completely forgotten about your existence.

2. His family suspects an affair: He flirted with you and then ignored you, probably because his family suspects an affair. They have the hint that something is cooking up between him and someone else (which is you in this case).
   • He ignores you because his family is getting suspicious. He likes you, but he loves his family. He will not let go of them for you.
   • He flirted with you when his family had no clue about it. He might have moved forward with this affair if his family had never suspected it. But that’s not the case, and unfortunately, you will have to bear the brunt of the situation.
   • He wants to have an affair, but he is not brave enough to go through a divorce as its direct consequence. He can’t afford to lose what he has with his family.
   • He might be in a loveless marriage, but that doesn’t stop him from being too attached to his family. If he had to choose between you and his family, he would choose the latter. He loves familial togetherness, even if it means a marriage without love for eternity.

3. He has realized his mistake: He is ignoring you because he has realized his mistakes. Cheating is bad in any circumstance. He wants to make things right between himself and his spouse.
   • He was about to cheat on his spouse with you. Flirting with you was the first step to an affair that would have made his life complicated.
   • Cheating on someone (especially the spouse) can never be justified. He was about to do something that might have jeopardized his relationship forever. He has come to his senses.
   • He flirted with you when he wanted this affair to happen. Now that he has realized his mistakes, he wants to make things right by ignoring you.
   • He is scared of losing what he has with his family. He has chosen his family over you and is happy with that decision. He is ignoring you because he doesn’t want you in his life.

4. He is trying to teach you a lesson: He is ignoring you because he wants to teach you a lesson for something you did to upset him. You may or may not be aware of said deed.
   • He likes you, but he is ignoring you because he wants to teach you a lesson for something you did to upset him. He won’t flirt with you again until you have realized what you have done.
   • He can be particularly unreasonable in situations like this. He might get upset over trivial things. He will make you feel bad for being yourself.
   • He is trying to teach you a lesson by acting cold. The more upset you grow over this, the more he wins. He might be wrong, but getting upset over the way he is ignoring you will only make him feel he is right.

5. He is scared of getting caught: He flirts with you and then ignores you. That’s probably because he is scared of getting caught. He wants to have an affair, but he is too scared to make a move.
   • He does what he does because he has no courage to do what he wants. He flirts with you because he wants to have this extramarital affair with you, but he is too scared to be in one.
   • He is scared of society and the consequence of his family finding out about your presence in his life. He likes you, but he can never act on it.
   • The moment this married man started thinking about you in a romantic way, he indirectly started cheating on his spouse. He is still married because of getting caught. That’s why he is ignoring you now. Getting a divorce just to be with you is definitely not his cup of tea.

6. He is falling in love with his marital partner again: He used to flirt with you when he liked you. But now that he is falling in love with his spouse once again, he has chosen to ignore you.
   • He is falling in love with his spouse again. He has discovered fresh new feelings for them in his heart.
   • This can happen when they spend some time together. This might also happen after they have a child. Things like these often bind people together.
   • His marriage started to fall apart, and that’s when you entered his life. Now that he is picking up the broken pieces to start afresh, he no longer needs you.
   • He started flirting with you when he fell out of love for some time. Now that he has acquired new feelings for them, he wants you to stay out of their life. The best way to make you do that is by ignoring your presence.

7. You are not his type: He has realized that you are not his type. He flirted with you when you were a stranger to him. Now he knows a bit more about you, and that has made him realize you are not his type.
   • It is as clear as day. The married man is ignoring you after flirting with you for a while because you are not his type.
   • This can happen when he wants a casual fling while you are in search of a serious relationship. A serious relationship is the last thing he wants. He is trying to escape from the same.
   • He is bored with his marriage. Through the affair, he wants to rediscover his free-spirited young self. But then it won’t happen if you insist on being in a serious relationship.
   • The question of him being right or wrong comes later here. Our quest to find the reason behind his behavior must focus on what he wants and what scares him.

8. He doesn’t want to hurt you: He wants to be with you, but his circumstances won’t allow him to. He is ignoring you because he wants to protect you from heartbreak.
   • He likes you, but he can never be entirely yours. He can never be with you even if he wants to. He is a married man with responsibilities.
   • This can happen, especially when he has kids. The relationship with his spouse might be a difficult one, but his kids are important to him. He loves them, and your presence in his life might not be good for their mental health.
   • His feelings for you are true, but it is not enough to make him trash a marriage. He is not willing to go through a divorce for you. This is the harsh truth you have to accept.
   • He wants to protect you from potential heartbreak. He can’t be with you, and he doesn’t want to have high hopes about this relationship with him. He is ignoring you to make you grow tired and move out of his life.

9. He thinks he can use you the way he wants: He is not a nice person. He wants to use you the way he wants. He will never make you a part of his regular life. He will keep you in the shadows on purpose.
   • He wants you to be a hidden part of his life. He is ashamed of your existence, yet he can’t live without you.
   • He wants to use you in whatever way he wants. He will try to do everything he is not allowed to do in his marriage.
   • He flirts with you and then ignores you because he thinks you will never leave him. He is too proud of his position in your life. He thinks he is superior and has a certain dominating power over you.
   • He might try to ensure your presence in his life by showering you with expensive gifts and more comfort than you ever dreamed of. However, these things shouldn’t matter if you think he is not the right guy for you. You don’t owe him anything.

10. He thinks of you as a mere sexual prop: You are nothing but a mere sexual prop to him. That’s why he flirts with you only when he wants you in his bed and then ignores you once the deed is done. He is using you to fulfill his carnal desires.
    • For him, you are just another number. He thinks of you as a sexual object that he can use at will.
    • He hides you from the world. Getting caught with you is a big prestige issue for him. He will jeopardize your life and feelings, but when it comes to his life, he wants it to be perfect. He is probably never going to make you a part of his life.
    • Certain behavioral patterns reveal the kind of person he is. There are a few signs you can look for in his behavior. They are:
      • He calls you only when he wants to sleep with you.
      • He never talks to you after a make-out session.
      • He dodges personal questions.
      • He is rude whenever you talk about your wish to be a part of his social life.
      • He is too careful whenever he is with you.
      • He never calls you back after a date.
      • He makes you do weird things in bed. Those are probably the things his wife doesn’t allow him to do.
      • He becomes a big man-child whenever you say “no” to any of his sexual fantasies.

What to do (or not to do) in a situation like this?

1. Don’t beg him to stay in your life: That is the most important thing to remember in a situation like this. Don’t beg him to stay with you. He ignored you. Have some self-respect and never look back.
   • He treated you like you never mattered. Why would you beg a guy like this to stay in your life? You can do better than this.
   • He is bad for your mental health. He will make you feel good only when he wants you in his bed.
   • Moreover, he is married. He already has someone to share his life with. He will probably not jeopardize his marriage to start a new life with you. You are just another affair that he is going to forget after a while. Why spend your valuable time on him?
   • Forget about his existence when he ignores you. He will never be yours. However, if you stay in this toxic relationship, he will probably do everything he can to make your life miserable every day in fresh new ways.

2. Ignore him when he shows interest in you: He ignored you when you showed interest in him. You should do the same to him the next time he tries to talk to you.
   • He thinks he can get away with this behavior. He wants you to be his puppet. Don’t be one and ignore him when he tries to talk to you.
   • Getting ignored by someone you like is one of the worst things that can happen to a person. It messes with your self-esteem and shatters you with embarrassment.
   • Don’t be with someone who makes you feel like trash. Look right through him and make him feel the sting you felt the other day because of his behavior.

3. Talk to him about the future of the relationship: Where is this relationship going? Talk to him about the future of this relationship. Conversations like this will help you make important decisions. You can start by asking him questions like:
   • “Where do you see us in five years?”
   • “Why are we together? Do we have a future?”
   • “Are you serious about me?”
   • “Do you still love your spouse?”
   • “What is my position in your life?”
   • “Are you serious about me? Are you willing to get a divorce to stay with me?”
   • “Are you in love with me, or is this just a passing fling?”
   • “I am looking for a serious relationship. What are you looking for?”

4. Come to an agreement about the nature of the affair: Try to come to an agreement about the nature of this affair. You guys should be on the same page.
   • If you are in for a casual fling that only involves the occasional sleeping together with no strings attached, go for it. Assure him that you won’t claim a place in his life, and things will be strictly physical between you two.
   • However, if you want a serious relationship, this married guy is not the one for you. He will have an affair with you just to satiate his physical needs. After that, he will discard you like trash.
   • It is better not to get involved in any kind of relationship when you people are not on the same page. It will only increase your misery.

5. Don’t get involved in his family matters: This is one of the most important things. Do not get involved in his family issues. It can complicate things for the worse.
   • This married man we are talking about has two distinctly different lives. Society knows about his life with his spouse and children. His other life with you or any other extramarital affair remains hidden in the shadows.
   • His life with you is supposed to be that way. He never said anything about getting serious with you. If you want a serious relationship, go for a person who is not married with kids to look after.
   • Also, don’t involve his family in your affair in any way. It might sound tempting to reveal everything to them, hoping for them to leave the guy you like so that you can swoop in when he is all alone. But don’t do that. It will only worsen your position in his life.
   • Don’t meddle in his family matters. You don’t know anything about them. As I have said earlier, it is always better to stay away from married men when it comes to romantic relationships.

6. Don’t call him back if this is a recurring thing: If he behaves like this with you all the time, take the hint, and don’t call him back ever again. He should stay accountable for the damage he has done to your mental health.
   • He flirts with you and makes you feel special, only to make you feel like trash the next day. Stop indulging in this behavior once and for all.
   • Don’t call him back ever again. He behaved horribly with you. He should get the same behavior from you.
   • Don’t let him have what he wants the most. He wants to get you to his bed to fulfill his sexual desires. Ignore him and his wishes.
   • Don’t take his calls, either. He will try to call you a number of times when he needs sexual favors. Forget that he exists and find someone who actually cares for you.

7. Try to stay away from married men: It is a pretty easy thing to do. Don’t complicate your life unnecessarily. Stay away from married men. Most of them are here to use you for sexual favors.
   • A married man flirted with you and then ignored you. This should be a lesson for your future romantic endeavors. Be with someone who values you.
   • Most married men will use you to satiate their sexual desires. That’s what you mean to them. They will never accept you as a part of their social life. For that, they have a picture-perfect family.

8. Don’t stop him when he tries to get back to his partner: A married man is legally bound to his partner. Don’t stop him when he wants to return to them. It’s better to keep yourself out of complicated relationships.
   • He is falling for his spouse again and wants to leave you for that. Let him do what he wants. Either way, he is going to ignore you until you step out of his life.
   • It’s better to terminate a relationship or a potential relationship before the other person does that. It will protect your pride and will keep your head high.

9. Walk out of his life when he thinks of you as a mistake: He thinks of you as a mistake. Walk out of his life as fast as you can. He is going to make you feel miserable if you don’t.
   • Thinking of someone as a mistake is a way to insult a person (especially when the person is involved in a romantic relationship with you).
   • He flirts with you and then ignores you, thinking that you are the biggest mistake of his life. Well, being with a person like him was the biggest mistake of your life. Make him realize that by walking out of his life.
   • Be firm when you do it. Don’t take his calls. Don’t reply to his texts, and definitely don’t try to meet him in person. Forget that he exists.

10. Leave him alone if he is doing this to keep you safe: He wants to keep you safe from heartbreak, as he will never be able to ditch his family for you. Respect that and stop seeing him.
    • He can never make you a part of his life as he is answerable to society. His kids depend on him, and your presence in his life might become a source of mental agony for them.
    • He wants to protect his family from you and you from them. In the process, he has to choose his family over you, and this is the bitter truth you will have to accept.
    • He is only trying to protect you from a bigger heartbreak by blocking you out. He likes you but has to ignore you for your benefit. Be wise and leave him alone.

Tips

A few things to remember:

• The married man will not leave his family for you.
• Most married men want to have an affair with no strings attached just to satiate their sexual needs.
• He will probably not be able to include you in his life even if he has romantic feelings for you.
• He will deny your existence as soon as his family gets a hint about the affair.
• He might be too scared of his family to move things forward with you.
• It is always better to stay away from married men.